the essential handkerchief

Until I moved to Japan after college, I had never carried a handkerchief. The handkerchief was a throwback to my grandmother’s generation I thought and was something one waived in the air while waiting for smelling salts before you were about to faint. The hankies I knew were white and lacy. Definitely old fashioned I thought.

When I moved to Japan though, I was startled to see in the department stores shelf upon shelf of beautiful and sometimes whimsical handkerchiefs. There were even handkerchiefs for kids with cartoon characters on them.

For Japanese women, carrying a handkerchief is essential. Not all public bathrooms have paper towels so having a lovely handkerchief with which to dry your hands is helpful. The handkerchief is also useful during humid summers to dab you brow or neck on a crowded train. I never saw anyone blow his or her nose into a handkerchief the way Americans do. It’s more for discreet dabbing the way you would when you walk inside after walking a few blocks on a snowy day and your nose drips a tiny bit. Tissues are used for dealing with runny noses and serious nasal congestion while handkerchiefs are a more multipurpose cloth kept either in the pocket or purse. Japanese hankies are made of very lightweight cotton so they dry extremely quickly and are not bulky in pockets.

I soon found the handkerchief habit both charming and civilized, not to mention eco-friendly. Choosing which handkerchief I would carry each day became part of getting dressed in the morning. I have a watermelon hankie with Sara Midda illustrations on it and another blue and white one with little French sailors that I carry only in the summer. There’s one sweet one made from Liberty of London fabric. I even have one with the Tokyo subway system printed on it.

When I met Bill I learned that he carried a handkerchief daily even before he went to live in Japan. One night after our first fabric line had been delivered I found him in the studio late at night making himself handkerchiefs out of the sample fabrics we had received. He regularly gets asked where he gets his colorful handkerchiefs and often sends them to one friend who lives in Morocco who requests them. This year I made him a new one because those from the first line have begun to fade after six years of weekly washings.

Although quilting cotton is thicker than those diaphanous ones I bought in Japan, it still makes a fine handkerchief. To make your own, cut a square of cotton the size you desire. I tend to make mine about 8″x8″. Bill likes his bigger so he makes his 14″x14″.

Making the hankies is the same as making a cloth napkin. Turn under and press a 1/4″ strip on all sides. Roll the edges again 1/4″ and press. Topstitch all sides taking care to backstitch the corners.

Although they don’t have to be pressed when they come out of the dryer I prefer to press them so they’re neat and crisp when folded. Unlike shirts that require a lot of manipulation to get right, handkerchiefs iron flat in seconds. Then when you’re in the movie theater and the weepy part comes, you reach into your purse and there’s a beautiful little hankie in there with which to dab the corner of your eye.

12 Comments

  1. Ann Costa
    Posted February 18, 2010 at 11:21 pm | Permalink

    LOVE it. So much better then reaching in to your bag and finding a crumpled up tissue that was used for God knows what! You converted me to hankies.

  2. Gail
    Posted February 19, 2010 at 10:43 am | Permalink

    My husband is called old-fashioned because he carries a white cotton handkerchief every day. He doesn’t feel dressed without one. His dad carried hankies made by his mother out of worn shirts. For years I’ve always carried bandanas in my purse for just this purpose. I can’t believe I never thought to make some pretty ones!

  3. Posted February 19, 2010 at 11:18 am | Permalink

    Thanks for this lovely Ode To Hankies! I have a bunch that I purchased … can’t wait to make some of my own.

  4. Megan
    Posted February 19, 2010 at 2:34 pm | Permalink

    I LOVE this post! My husband grew up in Vermont and he carries a clean hankie with him every single day! All the men on his side get new hankies for Christmas every year. They all tell me it’s such a ‘Mom’ gift but they love them!
    Megan

  5. MiChal
    Posted February 19, 2010 at 3:51 pm | Permalink

    What a great way to keep fabric you love nearby!

  6. Cindy
    Posted February 19, 2010 at 4:03 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for this post about hankies. My grandmother taught me how to handle an iron pressing her hankie collection. She always carried an extra one in her purse when I attended a church service with her. Mine had a peppermint candy tied in one corner. I’m off to check my stash and make some for myself!

  7. Posted February 19, 2010 at 5:25 pm | Permalink

    I’ve always been a hankie user, and I have a few from my grandmother and from my childhood! My husband also uses hankies. Here’s a question for you — if I’m buying him new handkerchiefs with an initial embroidered on them — should it be the initial of his first name or his last name? (I know — I should just make his hankies instead…)

  8. Posted February 19, 2010 at 8:10 pm | Permalink

    Response to floribunda:

    I think monograms are a personal choice but the standard is to use the last initial on them. I have found, however, that all of the women I know who have monogrammed handkerchiefs have used their first initial instead of their last, myself included.

  9. Posted February 21, 2010 at 9:22 pm | Permalink

    thanks, Weeks!

  10. Meg Wolf
    Posted June 2, 2011 at 1:39 pm | Permalink

    Hello,

    Love your blog and especially love the handkerchiefs with the tiny French sailors and the watermelon by Sara Midda. Can you tell me where you found the fabric or the handkerchiefs? I’ve loved Sara Midda’s work for years!!!

    Many thanks and enjoy your day,

    Meg

  11. Posted July 8, 2011 at 11:10 am | Permalink

    A HANKIE A DAY KEEPS A FLU AWAY!

    Most excellent subject under discussed and extremely important to learn of much more uses of
    handkerchiefs.

    For many years I have not left my home without
    two handkerchiefs, one for me and one for another person.

    I’ve used my extra handkerchiefs to:
    Stop bleeding on a fallen ladies forehead.
    People that got sick.
    Dry eye glasses when walking in the rain.
    I’m prepared to use it to cover the mouth to give CPR to someone that was not breathing.
    See http://www.dignityanddining.org Gosh Bless You!

  12. justin
    Posted November 24, 2012 at 5:33 pm | Permalink

    I’ve been looking everywhere on the internet even amazon to find the perfect handkerchief like these in your photos. My friend found one and the material is outstanding. What would be a good website to go to find one? Please help and Thank you


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